Jun 15, 2009

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BONNAROOOOOOOO – 09

This This the first of what will be a series of post Roo posts.  I am back from the hills of Tennessee beaming.  I am exhausted,, still buzzzed with a contact high and working very hard to be coherent.  Will post about my faves — Al Green, Elvis Costello, David Byrne; disappointments (Springsteen), emotions, new discoveries, run ins with state troopers, Random thoughts.  The weather really cooperated, torrential rain Thursday, some light rain Friday morning, then sun , sun , sun.  I was amazed by how smooth things went. The staff was amazing. I came with more food , water and baby wipes than were really necessary and next year I will be traveling much lighter but there was just a very cooperative vibe that made it all sooooo easy.   The music was amazing, diverse and ubiqiutous.  There were bands I fell in love with for the first time — Mike Farris and the Roseland Rthym Review were killer first thing sunday morning, Portugal the Man and Vieux Farke Toure were also pleasant first time hears for me.  Al Green, Elvis, David Byrne and Jimmy Buffet were all pleasant reconnects from my past.  Unfortunately Bruce was a huge disappointment.  For the unitiated I am sure his gig was fine but for a Jersey guy who knows what he is capable of, trust me he left a lot in Norway where he was apparently playing the nite before.  I was there with my 20 something nephew and his friends and my brother.  Next year I’ll be back with hopefully a whole rocking chair pod. I suspect while it was an easy event for me there was still plenty of opportunity for adventure and trouble.  Which is a good thing.  You should always have a chance to push the envelope and Roo provides a safe place to step over the edge and fall into a safety net if need be. Last time I did the camping in a field at a rock cconcert thing I was a 16 year old kid at Watkins Glen hitching up state to see the Dead, Allman Bros and the Band.  But I need to get some sleep....

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Jun 5, 2009

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When is a Standard Not a Standard?

     More LeBron stuff.  But I’ll be brief.  In the aftermath of LeBron James blowing off the press, David Stern the Commissioner of the NBA — normally a very bright and very powerful guy — made the surprising statement that the “league would not be fining LeBron for shirking his professional obligation to step up to the podium and face the press in the required post game conference.”  The explanation was simple.  Up until now, LeBron had been a good ambassador of the game and this was a first time infraction.   So Stern in his largesse thought he’d give James a pass. Unfortunately the player guidelines say otherwise.  Being available to the press after the game is part of the job.  It is not discretionary.  The ramifications of making an exception for a favored son are two-fold. On the one hand it sends a bad message to other players and the public.  If there is a different standard in enforcing league rules how do we know a similar policy doesn’t exist in the way games are called or drafts are run?  The NBA has always had deal with the murmurs that there was a conspiracy afoot to fix the outcome of playoff series to keep the marquee teams alive or skewing the lottery to ensure the right player landed with the right team.  There is an awful lot of discretion given to refs in the way a game is called and anything that might cloud that is a bad thing. But the second potential fallout is the one I want to address.  It is the effect being favored has on LeBron himself.  By giving him a pass on the fine the league has deprived him of the right to reclaim his honor.   The have stolen from him the chance to “be cool” with his fellow players.  No one likes a teachers pet.  There is no greater short cut to teenage angst than getting pegged as the “golden boy” in school.  Bullies will look to take you down a few notches, kids will gladly rat you out.  It certainly is no different is sports.  Early on in Michael Jordan’s NBA career he was routinely frozen out of All-Star games.  His teammates would not pass him the ball and when he had it the opposing team would cover him twice as...

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Jun 1, 2009

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“Adversity doesn’t build character, it reveals it.”...

This quote is unattributed but it rings true. Much has been made by the fact that following his team’s exit from the NBA Eastern Conference Finals LeBron James refused to shake hands with the Orlando magic and refused to address the press. There is no shortage of assholes in the ranks of professional athletes and if any of them had done what LeBron had done, no one would notice.  But LeBron is different he is King James, the...

May 15, 2009

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i used to complain about having no shoes until I met a man ……....

The universe works in mysterious ways.  On Monday morning I woke up after a pretty fitful night with some very lucid and unsettling dreams.  I turned to Dorry in bed and said, “Something bad is going to happen today.”  I had only felt that way once after a night’s sleep and that was on the morning of September 11. Later that day I heard that Gabe Goreham, the 19 year old son of our friend Niika, had been...

May 8, 2009

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A Homecoming of Sorts

  I had the tremendously gratifying pleasure of traveling to Vancouver last weekend for the annual leadership meeting of my men’s’ organization MDI — Men’s Divisions International — admittedly a horrible name but it is what is.  What made the weekend so gratifying — besides the weather and the fact that we were tucked away in the mountains alongside some inlet amidst nature at its best — is that it served as a sort of a homecoming for two...

Apr 28, 2009

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Getting Too Next to Normal

Last week I went to see a musical which just opened on Broadway, Next to Normal.  Let me get the theatre critic impulse out of the way – the show is brilliant.  It is an uncompromising look at the effects a bi-polar disorder has not just on the patient mother but on her suburban family.  While I wouldn’t go so far as to call it upbeat, it is nowhere near as oppressive as one might expect from the...

Apr 12, 2009

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The Indelible Years

    One of the things I am enjoying about Facebook is the various phases of my life that I get to revisit, not just through the lens of my own experience but through the lens of those who I shared the time with.  My old neighborhood in Brooklyn, Sleepaway camp, the cross country teen tours I used to run, High school.   What I have come to realize is everyone has those indelible moments that stick with them forever.  There are...

Apr 5, 2009

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9th Tenet of the Code – Defend A Code...

9th Tenet of the Code   The MDI Code of Honor was created by the men of what was then known as the Sterling Men’s Divisions.  It was intended to reflect some very basic core values that all men could rally behind and support.   Back in the late 1990s the men of the Western Region created an ark which contained 15 different pieces of word. Each stick was made of a specific type of wood and bore...

Mar 30, 2009

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Don’t Let Your Ego Lead You to Believe There is Grass Greener Than That In the Garden of Eden...

  I am still stuck on college hoops.  Sorry but I am glowing at the prospect that I am poised to win a few hundred bucks in the pool I have with my guys.  Thank you Tom Izzo and Michigan State.  That and I finally pulled away from my 13 year old daughter in our household pool; there is a lot of face saving in that one. But the thing I wanted to touch on is the coaching carousel....

Mar 22, 2009

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March Sanity

I am going to take a week off from introspection and rant about the lack of madness this March, The NCAAs have been woefully disappointing so far.  In my mind the Committee has killed the goose that laid its golden egg.  Only 4 mid majors get at large bids so all we get is big schools playing big schools.  Not alot of grit, spunk and heroics, just lots of blow outs.  The one exception, Sienna taking out Ohio...

Mar 13, 2009

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Love The One You’re With — That’d Be You...

     Most of us have a hard time giving to ourselves.  It is easy for me to bend over backwards to do a favor for someone else but when it comes time for me to ask for a favor all the little voices go off in my head “your being selfish, you don’t deserve this, there is so much to do” and on and on. But the bottom line is if I am not feeding my soul and taking...

Mar 1, 2009

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8th Tenet of the Code – Always Be Faithful to the Men...

8th Tenet of the Code  The MDI Code of Honor was created by the men of what was then known as the Sterling Men’s Divisions.  It was intended to reflect some very basic core values that all men could rally behind and support.  Back in the late 1990s the men of the Western Region created an ark which contained 15 different pieces of word. Each stick was made of a specific type of wood and bore a specific...